Rules dating multiple men
Last month, I wrote to two men that I was very interested in.
The good news is that both of them wrote me back and I have been seeing both for the past 2-3 weeks.
In light of all this, I asked psychologist Irene Levine, clinical professor of psychiatry at New York University Langone School of Medicine, to demystify the allure of dating multiple people simultaneously, once and for all.
Some folk think a cheeky snog is no reason to climb off the dating merry-go-round.
Others believe that even chatting online with more than one person is disgracefully duplicitous. If we want to enjoy the benefits of 21st century dating without getting hurt, or hurting others, perhaps it’s time to agree on a few rules. First off, most Christians would agree that once hand-holding and sweet nothings have entered the equation, there should be no hedging your bets. Then don’t be surprised if the other person assumes you’re in a relationship, and is hurt and angry to learn otherwise.
If you can’t hold back on the smooching to protect your date’s feelings until you know what you want, then frankly, you’re not fit to be dating!
So have a stern word with yourself, and come back when you’ve grown up a bit.