Online dating stuff talk
Predictably, the conversation became more interesting when participants asked “Have you ever broken someone’s heart? Asking provocative questions for the sake of being provocative shows that you don’t trust that you (or your date) are interesting.
You’re asking your date to reveal personal information, just because.
e Harmony started in 2000, Ok Cupid in 2004, and more recently, a wave of mobile people-swiping apps, like Tinder and Hinge, have become wildly popular.
But is this a positive development or something to be concerned about?
Plus, they're backed by professionals who know what they're talking about. It promotes a good back-and-forth between the two of you.
While leading with questions like these might work in a context in which both parties have agreed to take part in an experiment, asking a stranger personal questions in real life is called “prying.” Sometimes, a date will be caught off guard by your confidence and forwardness, sure, but unless you’re charming as hell, they’re likely to feel like they’re under the microscope. Still, Ariely’s initial point is well taken: first date conversation that sticks strictly to the basics is boring, and you might be cheating yourself out of an opportunity to really get to know someone because you were afraid to take a risk. So you studied journalism in college, but now you’re in music management?
But isn’t there some middle ground between being a douche and being a dud? Do you feel like the part of you that loves stories is fulfilled?
The dates she liked didn't write her back, and her own profile attracted crickets (and worse).
So, as any fan of data would do: she started making a spreadsheet.