Advice on dating a divorced man
Thank you for all of your clear and concise thoughts over the last few years.
I have definitely taken things to heart: look for boyfriend behavior; there is a natural timeline where commitment should come by month three, “I love you” around 6 months, living together at 18, engaged at 2-3 years; men do what they want, and so many other pearls.
I respect that they are concerned about me and my situation but can't they just be happy that I'm happy right now? consider that and watch how close your guy with his children and watch the character of those children .your choice .. I also am in a relationship with a fella with 3 kids, I have 4 and can make it work, but he is having difficulty, he says they come first and me 2nd. Using this, I decided what to do about my relationship and have been very happy with my decision. I am dating a recently divorced man with 3 children. I have only been around them twice and both times things went well, but we've been dating now for 8 months and still I've only been around them twice. But, If he doesn't have that desire to include me in ALL of his life, have me go places with them (even once a month) then how do I know if this is actually going somwhere?I never wanted to have children and when I hit my late thirties, I really thought the whole to have kids or not to have kids‘ debate was over even if it sent my mother into a fit of hair-pulling tears. Perfect’s problem this was entirely my problem as I was the one with the hang up about kids and it was up to me to either move on or adjust my thinking.I had dated guys in the past that had a child or two as well as the ex-wife baggage but it had never worked out my lifestyle was just not meant to have children a part of it. In some ways, I was lucky I knew about the child long before I had to make a decision about whether this was the man for me. Right had always been upfront about his son and ex-wife so as I got to know him, I also got to know about his son he never held anything back just in case it would scare me away.He’s a fantastic and committed single dad who has his 5-year-old son 50% of the time; he and his ex-divorced several years ago.She has struggled with addiction, thus making co-parenting a bit of a struggle at times. He’s truly wonderful; he’s kind, thoughtful, treats me with so much respect.